Of comfort level and the like

Saturday and I finally decided to pay my friend a visit at his coaching center where he is preparing for his actuarial examinations.I know not a lot of you would be aware about what an actuary means and I do not really know the exact definition either so the best idea would be to go and google it if you are that curious.

Ok so being the planners that he and I are we started hatching a plan yesterday night.He has a batchmate at his institute who is supposedly India's No.2 woman golfer.We talked about me acting as a sort of a manager for her the time I am here and if it were to progress smoothly look to carry it forward even when I went back to Joka.The real purpose though as in all our plans was something else.I would leave the answer to the readers guess.

As it happened I reached the institute around 1 and the class was still going on.This was basically a doubt class so my friend(we will call him AS from now on) could leave while it was still going on and we went and had lunch at this dinghy place nearby.South Campus is full of places like these.When we cam back,class had finished and we met the girl.Now AS has this weird thing in his head where he finds it very hard to introduce two people well.While we are standing there he goes-'This is my friend Prateek.I talked to you about him.He is looking to expand his social circle.'

In my head I went-'What the hell moron?' but that didnt really come out as words.The next 15 minutes were very very awkward.I just could not bring myself around to initiating a conversation with that girl and AS told me later that she said the following about me-'Why is he acting so weirdly?'.Ok so some part of it was my mistake but was it fully my mistake?I do not know why but I just did not feel comfortable in the company of that girl.And she did not really make any effort to make me comfortable too.

Later when we were standing at the bus stand to catch our respective buses(he to gurgaon and I to Uttam nagar) I started pestering him to go to Noida to meet this girl he has been talking to for a long time now.I mean there were no surreptitious intentions there like there are with most of our plans.The point was just to have some fun and waste some time.I asked him to call his friend up which he did.And he started telling her that he wanted to come but could not coz he had lots of studying to do(Yeah his exams are in the 2nd week of may and he is taking 3 at one go).I on the other hand was prompting him again and again to go.Finally it irritated him so much that he handed the phone to me.Now I had never talked to this girl before.But when I did start talking it all came out so naturally.For two people who were talking for the first time,we talked very easily and it somehow made me realize something.

It made me realize that being comfortable in someone's company is not really a choice for you to make.It just happens by itself.You will not really make an extra effort but some people just have that compatibility level with you from the beginning which makes you pretty relaxed in their company.While other people do not and you need a lot of time with them to make good friends with them.

So all in all a successful day.Another lesson learnt..:)